Love Yourself

January 22nd, 2014
Valentines Day approaching I wanted to know if you Love the most important person in your life?  YOU!
I don’t know about you but I’m my worst critic. I remember when I was 28, in great shape and I would look in the mirror at all of my flaws. Over 40 now what I wouldn’t give for that 28 year old body. I wish I had appreciated it when I had it.

So now I’m working on getting as close as I can to that 28 year old body. I have a personal trainer, I’m eating right and taking care of myself. I get massages and go to a chiropractor. I really try to pamper myself when I can. Manicure and Pedicures are great ways as well.

What I’ve also learned from the past is that things can always be better, but they can also be worse. I may not be completely happy with my physical body today but it is much better than it was when I gave birth to my oldest son 10 years ago. In fact I’m in better shape now than I was a year ago. I’m thankful for that and I’m going to appreciate myself for where I am right now.

Love your body where you are it’s so much more fun to go through the world confidently. Why stress over cellulite or a few extra pounds? Most people are so consumed with themselves and their own flows that they don’t notice yours anyway.

Does Your Morning Routine Need a Pick Me Up?

February 8th, 2013

Are you stuck in a rut?  Do you find yourself wearing the same shirt with the same skirt?  Is everything you wear starting to look the same?  Maybe its time to mix things up.  Getting ready this morning I had a little extra time.  I knew the skirt I wanted to wear but tried on 3 different tops because I wanted a new look.  I tried on 3 different jackets and two pair of shoes before I found the perfect look I wanted to achieve.  Then I experimented with the accessories.  It was trial and error.

When you try putting a new outfit together are you confident in your selections?  I find a lot of women  wear the same things over and over again because its something they are familiar with and they know they look and feel good in it.  But how do you feel when you have a new outfit.  Even a newly pieced together outfit from items you already own are fabulous.  So I would encourage you to give yourself an extra 10 minutes to get ready tomorrow so that you try a completely new outfit from items you already own.  You can do it!  I believe in you.

Valentines Day Boudoir

January 30th, 2013

Valentines Day is just around the corner.  I think a great gift whether your in a relationship or a single girl is to have a boudoir photo session.  Even if your a single girl it can be a great gift for yourself.

Feel Beautiful

Having some sensual pictures taken of you can be a great boost to your confidence.  What girl doesn’t want to look beautiful and sexy?  A professional photographer can take pictures with right lighting and poses too bring out your best features.  It will show you how others see you, not as you see yourself.

You can even have your hair and make-up done that day to feel extra glamorous.  Of course spending a lot of money isn’t necessary.  You can find discounts for boudoir sessions on sites such as Groupon and Living Social frequently.  You also don’t need to spend a lot of money on new lingerie either.  A satin sheet or men’s button up shirt can do just fine.

Admit it…you’ve always thought about doing this but have been waiting for the right time.  The right person to share it with, to be a little tanner or a little thinner.    There is no time like the present.   What are you waiting for.


A Clothes Encounter In The Business World

April 7th, 2012

Follow these professional business attire tips for both men and women because we are judged by the way we dress.

Do you ever wonder where all the dress rules have gone? Depending on when and where you are on any given business day, the words “distant past” might come to mind. It’s difficult to decide if people don’t know what to wear to work or if they have lost sight of the relevance of appearance to professional success.

The Queen of England is reported to have told Prince Charles, “Dress gives one the outward sign from which people can judge the inward state of mind. One they can see, the other they cannot.” Clearly, she was saying what many people are reluctant to accept; that people judge us by the way we dress. In all situations, business and social, our outward appearance sends a message.

Try going to a busy restaurant at lunchtime. Look around you at what people are wearing and see if you don’t make judgments about who they are, their line of business, their personalities and their competencies. Think about how you feel when you are dressed in your usual business attire as opposed to casual dress. Your choice of business apparel speaks to your professional behavior and credibility. It is important to understand how to dress for business if you wish to promote yourself and your organization in a positive manner,

How you dress depends on four factors: the industry in which you work, the job you have within that industry, the geographic area in which you live; and most importantly, what your client expects to see.

Professional Dress for Men

In men’s clothing, fashion does not change significantly from season to season but business attire is about being professional and not about being fashionable. It’s about presenting yourself in a way that makes your clients feel comfortable and confident with you. Dressing for success is still the rule. The professional businessman should keep in mind these few points when deciding what to wear to work.

Choose a conservative suit in navy, black or gray either pinstripe or solid. The quality of the material speaks as loudly as the color and can make the difference between sleaze and suave.

A solid white or blue dress shirt with long sleeves offers the most polished look. The more pattern and color you add, the more the focus is on your clothing, rather than your professionalism.

Ties should be made of silk or a silk-like fabric. Avoid the cartoon characters and go for simple and subtle if you want to enhance your credibility.

Socks should be calf-length or above. Make sure they match not only what you are wearing, but also each other. A quick glance in good light before heading out the door can save embarrassment later in the day. Check for holes as well if you’ll be going through airport security and removing your shoes.

Shoes should without question be conservative, clean and well polished. Lace-up shoes are the choice over slip-ons or flip flops. Don’t think for a minute that people don’t notice shoes. Many people will look at your feet before your face.

Belts need to match or closely coordinate with your shoes. Once again, quality counts.

Keep jewelry to a minimum. In a time when men sport gold necklaces, bracelets and earrings, the business professional should limit himself to a conservative watch, a wedding band and maybe his college ring.

Personal hygiene is part of the success equation. Freshly scrubbed wins out over heavily fragranced any day of the week. Save the after-shave for after hours, but never the shave itself.

The finishing touch for the business man is his choice of accessories: briefcase, portfolio and pen. When it comes to sealing the deal, a top of the line suit, a silk tie and a good pair of leather shoes can lose their affect when you pull out the ball point pen you picked up in the hotel meeting room the day before.

Professional Dress for Women

When women entered the workplace in the 1970′s and 1980′s in greater numbers than ever before and began to move into positions which had traditionally been held by men, many of them believed that they needed to imitate male business attire. The result was women showing up at the office in skirted suits or coordinated skirts and jackets with tailored blouses finished off with an accessory item that looked very much like a man’s tie. Happily those days are gone. While the business woman may now wear trousers to work, she does it out of a desire to appear professional and at the same time enjoy the flexibility and comfort that pants offer over skirts. Her goal is no longer to mirror her male colleagues.

The same overall rules apply to women’s work attire as apply to men’s. Business clothing is not a reflection of the latest fashion trend. A woman should be noticed for who she is and her professional skills rather than for what she wears. Her business wear should be appropriate for her industry and her position or title within the industry.

Start with a skirted suit or pants suit for the most conservative look. A skirted suit is the most professional. With a few exceptions, dresses do not offer the same credibility unless they are accompanied by matching jackets.

Skirts should be knee-length or slightly above or below. Avoid extremes. A skirt more than two inches above the knee raises eyebrows and questions.

Pants should break at the top of the foot or shoe. While Capri pants and their fashion cousins that come in assorted lengths from mid-calf to ankle are the latest trend, they are out of place in the conservative business environment.

Blouses and sweaters provide color and variety to woman’s clothing, but they should be appealing rather than revealing. Inappropriate necklines and waistlines can give the wrong impression.

Women need to wear hose in the business world. Neutral or flesh-tone stockings are the best choices. Never wear dark hose with light-colored clothing or shoes. Keep an extra pair of stockings in your desk drawer unless the hosiery store is next door or just down the street from the office.

Faces, not feet, should be the focal point in business so chose conservative shoes. A low heel is more professional than flats or high heels. In spite of current fashion and the sandal rage, open-toed or backless shoes are not office attire. Not only are sandals a safety hazard, they suggest a certain official agenda.

When it comes to accessories and jewelry, less is once again more. Keep it simple: one ring per hand, one earring per ear. Accessories should reflect your personality, not diminish your credibility.

Business attire is different from weekend and evening wear. Investing in a good business wardrobe is an investment in your professional future. For those who think it’s not what you wear but who you are that creates success, give that some more thought. Business skills and experience count, but so does personal appearance and that all-important first impression.


Article from Official Blog of Carmen Castro

A Little Hanky Panky for Valentines Day

February 12th, 2012

Looking for a wonderful gift for Valentine’s Day? Then check out Hanky Panky  I recently discovered the Hanky Panky website and I was surprised to learn that their stuff is one size fits all, made in the US and environmentally conscious.  Being one size fits all you don’t have to know the size which really makes things easy.  They have some really cute sets in different cuts and prints.  They also claim to have the world’s most comfortable thong.  But wait…there’s more…they have maternity and a line called After Midnight.  So indulge your inner flirt for yourself or someone you love.  Happy Valentines.


Want to Save Time Getting Ready in the Morning?

January 27th, 2012

Is there something that you dread in your morning routine?  Think about how you may be able to minimize or eliminate it.  For me this was easy.  I hate to blow dry my hair.  I have very thick hair, which I am thankful for, but it takes a long time to blow dry.  I don’t like spending a lot of time getting ready but I want to look good.  My hair also seems to get a little oily at my scalp when I don’t wash it daily.  When I was a little girl my mom would sprinkle a little bit of baby powder on my scalp to get rid of that oily look when I got up late and didn’t have time to wash it.  As an adult now I’m so happy that there are companies that make dry shampoo.  You can spray it on between washes and it freshens up your hair.  I now usually wash my hair every 3 days.  If I’ve just been to the salon (since they style it so well) I can usually get 5 days out of it before I have to wash.  It’s so great to get up and fluff it up or just add a couple of curls here and there.  I love saving time.  Two of my favorite dry shampoos are 7 Seconds Dry by UNITE and Touch Up by Eufora both are only sold in salons.  You can review their websites to find a salon near you.


Does Your Mood Matter When it Comes to Shopping?

January 22nd, 2012

Have you ever tried shopping when you weren’t in the mood? Doesn’t work so well, does it? It’s so important to shop when you’re in the right frame of mind and excited to shop. Here’s an example: a while back I was sick, but I had a coupon from Macy’s that was about to expire, and being sick wasn’t going to keep me from using it. I mean, it is Macy’s, right? So I went out and started shopping. I tried on 54 things. No, that’s not an exaggeration, 54 items (I counted). The worst part was that I didn’t like any of them! I wasn’t about to let my trip or my coupon go to waste, so I bought bras and underwear (practical and safe). Sound familiar? If not, then lucky you, if yes, then it’s not just you. It happens more often then you think. Don’t beat yourself up, but be advised, next time you go shopping, make sure that it’s really what you want to do, or else you’ll end up with drawers full of bras and underwear and nothing to wear.

New Year Younger You!

January 16th, 2012

New Year’s Resolutions… At one point every one of us has made one, or two, or 200. Some of us have actually stuck with it and completed our resolutions, the rest of us have laughed or shrugged when someone asked us if we’re still trying to: lose weight, look younger, eat healthier, get a new hobby, etc. Well if you are secretly hoping (praying, dreaming) that you could look younger without a Hollywood budget (don’t worry, I won’t tell), here’s your chance. The awesome and amazing Body Beautiful Spa in Phoenix/Scottsdale is giving away the prize of a lifetime! Are you ready for this? The grand prize is a Brand New, Younger Looking You! And yes, it could be you. All you have to do is enter the contest on their website. Here’s the link:  The deadline is January 28th, 2012, so hurry up and enter. Good luck


Lies we tell ourselves: I can’t afford to look good

January 12th, 2012

There are a few lies that we tell ourselves often. One is that desserts=the devil or an instant hundred pounds, and another is that in order to look good we need to sell our house and live out of our car. Sounds silly, right? That’s because it is. Dessert once in a while doesn’t mean that you’ve broken some unspoken rule, and you don’t need to shop on Rodeo Drive to look great. Here’s the one rule you should adhere to though, NEVER go in debt for fashion. If you do, you’ll end up resenting your clothes and your credit card bill. So what’s a girl to do? The answer? CONSIGN! You read that right, CONSIGN! Use the clothes that you don’t like, you don’t wear or that don’t fit and consign them. The profit from consigning your unwanted clothes can then be used to fund your fabulous new wardrobe. That ladies, is shopping smart and shopping smart will never be out of style. For more on this check out my book, Does This Ponytail Make My Butt Look Big, Style and Beauty for Every Woman; available  at or or your local book store.

Want to Feel Like a Princess?

October 19th, 2011

For the past 10 years I’ve gotten pedicures and manicures once a month.  I used to get my fingernails buffed but was finally persuaded to try the new gel nail polish.  I had been avoiding it for the simple fact that I was afraid I would become addicted and have to get my nails done every two weeks.  I was correct in my assumption.  I do usually get 3 weeks out of but there is sometimes the issue of finding the time and justifying the cost that I struggle with.  Last night I had an event and couldn’t go with chipped nails so I soaked off the gel polish and thought I would just go back to natural to save some time and money.  That lasted an entire 12 hours.  I couldn’t stand them.  I missed my shiny gel nails to much.  I realized today getting my manicure and pedicure how uplifting the process is to my spirits.  It feels so good to be pampered and massaged.  When you leave your feet and hands look so beautiful.  I feel amazing and more confident I noticed.  Worth the small price to pay, I just need to remind myself that I’m worth it!