Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

Put Your Oxygen Mask On First ~ You Can’t Help Anyone If Your Dead

Monday, October 17th, 2011


I often find that women have a hard time spending time and money on themselves.  Which are two things you need when shopping for clothes.  I like to remind women that it’s not what’s taught it’s what’s caught.  You’re teaching your kids through example good or bad.  So when I ask a woman if she wants her daughter to do as she does when she grows up.   Is it ok for her daughter to not take time for herself?  Is it ok for her daughter to not have nice clothes?  Is it ok for her daughter to go without new clothes for the sake of her children?  She will say absolutely not.  When you take time every morning to do your hair and put your make-up on your teaching your children to do the same.  When take the time to get rid of clothes that don’t look fabulous and shop for items that enhance your image your also teaching your children.  It’s like they say on commercial airlines…in the event there is a drop in cabin pressure oxygen masks will drop.  Put the mask on yourself first if you’re traveling with small children.

Be Confident in Your Fashion Choices ~ Mix it Up

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

I recently met with a client who really did know her style. She knew she had a bohemian flair and that’s what she felt comfortable in. She had great pieces in her closet but didn’t know how to wear them.

Like many of my clients she would get stuck in the rut of wearing the same top and bottoms together and that gets old. This pattern can easily make you feel as if you have a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear. No one wants that.

The most important thing is how you feel in the ensemble. Not what do you think other people will think. If you feel fabulous, you will be confident and confidence exudes success. Everyone else will think you look great too.

If you’re not used to mixing and matching your clothes then this may seem awkward at first but practice makes perfect. Be patient. Grab a top and try pairing it with several different pieces in your closet. Don’t beat yourself up if you try something and it doesn’t look good try something else until you find at least one to two different styles. You can take pictures of yourself in the outfits if you’re afraid you won’t remember or think you may go back to wicked ways of wearing the same shirt with the same skirt.

Congratulations you have now expanded your wardrobe. Isn’t that fun?

Can Wearing Pretty Lingerie Make You Feel More Confident?

Sunday, March 27th, 2011

I have to say that I’ve gone through different phases in my life with regards to lingerie. In my 20’s my undergarments were amazing. I spent so much money at Victoria Secret and everything had to match, always. An ex of mine was from Europe and he couldn’t believe how inexpensive our lingerie was here in the US. Most European women put a lot of time, money and thought into their undergarments.

I do have to say that after being married for many years and being a mom that I allowed both my sleepwear and my lingerie to lose its pizzazz. I don’t know why or how this happened. It was slowly over time. As I was packing for a business trip I realized that I would be embarrassed for anyone to see my less than glamorous boudoir apparel.

The solution was to practice what I preach with my clients. I went through my under garments and sleepwear and threw away everything that no longer served me. Wow it was a lot. This forced me to purchase some new items that made me glamorous and sexy.

I had forgotten how great I feel lounging around my bedroom in some cute pajamas. I think I sleep better.

Here are some things that I discovered from wearing nice lingerie.

  1. I feel sexier and more confident just knowing that I’m wearing something nice and pretty.
  2. I feel as though I have a secret that no one else knows what I’m wearing under my clothes.
  3. I like wearing it for me. So what if no one else sees it or if my husband doesn’t notice. It makes me feel special and I’m worth it.

We recently stopped at Anastasia’s, Bath Body Boudoir for our VIP Fashion Tour and everyone appreciated the beauty of the store and the beautiful garments. Some of the comments I heard people say were things like “I love this I just wish I had someone to wear it for” or “I would get this if I had a better body”. Ladies what I would say to that is dress for yourself and no one else. If you don’t have anyone special to show off your garments for there is nothing like being prepared for the future. Love and appreciate the body your in today. We can be our worse critics. Realize that goddesses come in all shapes and sizes.

KISS ~ Keep It Simple & Stylish

Saturday, February 5th, 2011

KISS ~ Keep It Simple & Stylish

Do you have a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear? Do you dread shopping? Do you have clothes in your closet that still have tags on?

These are common issues that I find with my clients regarding wardrobe. It’s no fun browsing a crowded closet full of items that you don’t like or that don’t make you look fabulous.

If you take the time twice a year as the seasons change to review your wardrobe you can eliminate this issue. The time you put in up front will save you time and aggravation on a daily basis. Ask yourself the following three questions.

  1. Do you love it?
  2. Does it fit you and is it flattering?
  3. Does it project the image you want the world to see?

If you answer no to any of these questions then you should toss, donate or consign it. If you answer yes to all three then use it to build on your wardrobe.

When you only have items in your closet what you love. You can see clearly what you have and will make fewer purchasing mistakes.

Step two of this process is to go through your closet and create a capsule of must have pieces in neutral colors. You want to have black, white, grey, brown and beige solid colors. These are staple pieces. Pants, tank tops, short sleeve shirts and long sleeve shirts in solid colors. For shirts be sure to have various neck lines as well. Scoop neck, v-neck etc. You can mix and match these pieces with your trendy seasonal pieces to complete your look. You will want to have a pen and paper handy to take notes of what key staple items you’re missing. The great thing about these simple pieces is that you can purchase them on sale or at discount stores. Then you can splurge on classic or trendy pieces for the season.

Step three is to go shopping to complete your look. Take a friend with you that has a good sense of style. It’s good to have a second opinion (especially for the rear view) and it’s just more fun to shop with friends.